I will miss my friend but I have learned that you have to move on. There was a quote that seemed appropriate and while it mentioned God, it say that you need to let go and trust God and the people who are meant to be in your life, will still be there. I hope that is the case. I have read on FASD groups that parents complain of losing friends who just don't want to stick around for the long haul. I suspect that was the case here. So I am letting go and moving on.
I wish this blog could be a light one,with light topics and to show pics and products, etc. But it is an adoption blog and a blog about raising a FASD child. My audience is limited and that's ok. My topics will be heavy and light at the same time. There will be times I'll write about vacation but also detail that there are issues when the routine is disrupted due to transition.
Make no bones about it, we have some good and funny times here, and as soon as we get some meds situated and go down that road, I think we will see more of them and hopefully a few less struggles for awhile. Cause the struggles are harder than anything I have ever been through, but we do come out the other side and we are making it. I was not prepared to raise a FASD child, but I am . I am trying to find ways of getting support or a support group because I know I need one. I think sometimes we adoptive parents feel that we should take it and not talk about the struggles because we wanted these children and we need to accept the issues and not talk about them. But if we don't talk about them then who are we helping, someone who might be struggling and not know where to turn?
So now on to some good news. BGA's 12th birthday is this week! 12!!! Seriously, how did my lovely little 6 yr old who came walking through our door and said her first memory was asking where the bathroom was, LOL, get to be 12?????
I will do a birthday post on my girl this week. She's struggling with school work, but she turned it around this week and I was proud of her and SHE was proud of herself. We're working on it together, Dave, BGA and I. She's got work to do, but she has really functioned well when she has a challenge. I am disappointed her science program after school got cancelled as two rowdy boys got hurt before it started so the "dr" who is teaching it decided to stop it until they decide if they can start it up again.
We took a hike this past weekend to some local redwoods. I have started walking again and it's really helping me physically, I have needed this for a long time but never pushed myself to do it. I am taking BGA to school as Dave who used to do it, is working 10 hour days till the holidays are over. It was either that or he worked till 7pm and when we did that year before last LGA could not handle the transition. But it's been good for me to go on a walk each day.
So we decided to visit the "BIG" trees where there are some great redwoods, etc. Lots of hiking paths. We chose the 1.6 mile hike. It was fun and we did experience nature (LGA experienced it a bit more than the rest of us as she ended up with some bug bites on her chest).
The air was crisp and cool in the 'foothills' where the big trees are, in upper 50's (we have hit 75 two times this week, when is 'fall' going to officially start??) so it was jacket and gloves weather.
We decided to stop for a late lunch at a local diner a few towns over. Usually when we go to restaurants these days it's hard for LGA to sit still, lower her voice, etc. We try some of the nicer restaurants but it is not always a great experience. Someone kicks someone else under the table, "I can't have that, SHE'S having that" etc. So this diner, the waitress was so nice. She sat us in the back, gave the girls a cup of ice with their water to keep them busy, then let them pick coloring books and crayons and made sure they had substitutions when they didn't want what the menu had on it. Dave said she ate her dinner and kept coming over and asking us if we were ok. She said she had kids too. It was the best dining experience we'd had in a long time.
So here are a few pics of our hike last week. I think I got some great photos of LGA. Usually she has an awkward smile as some kids do, but I caught her true self. She was beautiful and I love how her pics came out.
Sorry for the picture heavy post, but I had not really taken many pics and it was fun with all the great nature background. I love how LGA is looking up at the redwoods in one pic and how BGA was focused on the old Kodak camera we gave her. Great day, it was the cap to my 50th bday celebration.
Halloween was good and rushed, but still good. The girls chose their costumes at the last minute, we went to birthday dinner for me, rushed home, they changed into costumes and we drove around trick or treating. It was fun to see their excitement. No trading of candy this year, but since we waited till later to go, they had a half a sack of candy and we've been eating some also (with their permission) and doling it out bit by bit and we are almost done with it.
Well, there's two posts in two days! Enjoy your Veterans Day weekend. Daddy works a day and we are doing some relaxing (LGA's body has not caught up on the time change, she's getting up at 4am, have to try to get her to go back to bed, till 5am, then she's up, although today I got her to sleep in till 6:30!!) and going to see Thor. It will be nice to have the extra day off from the day to day school schedule.